Cutting the Cord

Being a parent his hard.  Being a parent with a traveling spouse is even harder.  When my husband is out of town it is no longer about parenting but about survival.

My husband has to travel for work.  In the past six weeks, he has been gone four.  We were lucky that on his last trip I was able to pack up the kids and go with him for two weeks.  However, the times when I am able to do that are few and far between.  While I would love to just follow him around Europe, I too have a job.  Not to mention that raising kids out of a hotel room is not as a glamorous as it sounds.

While my husband lives the life of room service and feather beds, I am usually the one left behind.  I usually don't mind.  I had long decided that my business traveling days had come to an end. 

This business trip, however, was different.  This trip was to Romania; "back home".  He would get to see his family again and be able to speak his language.  He doesn't get to go back often and I know that there are times when he wishes he was closer.

When he found out about this trip he asked if he could take Nathan along so that he could spend time with his family.

My first reaction was "no".  Actually I think my first reaction was, "you must be insane if you think you are taking my child away for two weeks".

Then I started to concede.  I agreed for him to take Nathan for one week, and one week only of his two week trip.  This meant that there would be no family time over the weekend but rather Cornel would be flying in Saturday to fly back out Sunday.

My mind was made up and if he wanted to take Nathan this was the deal.  Then common sense took over and I knew that I either had to let him go or keep him home; so I let him go.

I complain about being so far from family and here I was trying to keep Nathan from his.  How is that for rock star parenting?

Now, Nathan is off having wild adventures, like flying first class from Paris to Bucharest.  He is off enjoying the sunshine on his great grandparent's farm, while daddy slaves away.

It was right for him to go, but not easy.  The house is too quiet and I miss him like crazy.  Only a few more weeks until his laugh is bouncing off the walls again.



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17 comments:

Adrienne said...

What a gift you are giving him!!! Running in the sunshine on his great grandparents farm! I'm sorry it's so hard...I hope you're able to relax into the quiet just a little bit!

Lisa @ Two Bears Farm said...

I think when they're young like this it is really hard. When they're older, it would be easier in some ways to let them go on a trip, but now? Now is hard times. You are amazing and a very good wife.

Kimberly said...

You are a brave Mama! enjoy your time with just Noah. I am sure this time will be perfect for everyone :)

Kate R said...

It's not easy I'm sure, but what a precious time you're giving him. And you are learning a hard but important lesson of motherhood, I imagine!

Susan said...

I think it's amazing that you let him go Barbara! I don't think I would have been so brave.
Since y'know, I don't trust my husband with my youngest for longer than a few hours. Lol!

jeands said...

before you know it he'll be back. It would also be a great adventure for Nathan, something that he will forever remember and treasure. And that's because of you, for allowing him and giving him freedom.

JDaniel4's Mom said...

You are an amazing lady! I bet he will have a wonderful time.

Quiana said...

Awww yes, this is a big milestone! What a long distance. I can relate after sending Nia to be with my parents over Memorial Day weekend. I had a couple nightmares about it but in the end everything was fine! I hope you can enjoy the break and know that Nathan is having a wonderful time.

Jessica said...

Hopefully you don't get this twice I'm having a hard time commenting for some reason.
That had to be such a tough decision to make but what a great mom you are for letting him do it! Hope the weeks fly by for you!

Jill said...

You made a great decision to let him go, but my heart is with you because this would have been hard for me as well. We want to love them, protect them and keep them close, but we remember that taking away their independence and their ability to grow as an individual is far too high a price to pay. You did the right thing. Now just hang in there, when he gets home he will be so happy and have so much to share! :-)

Blessings,
Jill

Emmy said...

That would be hard but yes so nice that he is able to see his grandparents and your husband his family.

Stasha said...

Hugs my friend!! I am home alone a lot but I cannot imagine hubs taking my boy! It will be great to spend some time with Noah alone though. ANd you know Nathan is having a blast!

janie said...

letting go is hard but what you did is selfless and loving. =)

Mothering From Scratch said...

{Melinda} When they're so little, it's hard for us moms to let them out of our sight. Although, it's still scary (for different reasons) when they are teenagers! Hope you can enjoy a little rest and alone time even though you're missing your boys!

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bonnie-bonnbonnboutiqe.blogspot.com said...

Stopping by from sits! I think I would love for my husband to take one of our children out of town for 2 weeks! lol

Adrienne said...

Oh, that must be so hard! Good for you for letting him go. I'm sure he's having a blast!

Shell said...

I bet that he has a wonderful trip!

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