When Nathan was born I remember reading all of the books and being so "prepared".
I had my mind made up on an array of subjects:
Pacifier use - absolutely not
Co-sleeping - definitely not
Swaddling - nope, my child needed to learn to soothe himself
Sleep training- definitely, after 12 weeks
Not only did I have my very strong minded opinions, but I judged all of those other mothers who did things differently.
"What do you mean your baby doesn't sleep in his crib?"
"OMG look at the four year old with a pacifier!"
My judgements were endless.
Now, two months in to the newborn parenting thing again, I am no longer the same person.
Pacifier use - Yes! If only to give me five minutes of free time before it ends up on the floor
Sleeping in our room - yes, because who has the energy to walk to the nursery every two hours
Bottle feeding- yes please. Especially if it means I can get out into the life of the living!
We all do what we can to survive and what is best for each child. I wish I could go back in time and slap myself.
I am no longer self-righteous and am kinder to myself and especially other mothers. We need all the help we can get!