It isn't just limited to family and friends but even strangers on the street. It seems that the pregnancy bump is an open invitation for people to tell you what/what not to do and of course share their pearls of motherly wisdom. I especially loved it when non-mothers would share advice on breast-feeding, co-sleeping and the like.
I foolishly thought that being pregnant with my second baby, the advice would stop. I mean I've had one baby and survived, so I guess I should know what I'm doing. I was wrong, people have an even stronger desire to share advice with me.
So, I promise to not impart any of my own advice on new mothers but I will tell you what advice is a complete joke.
Sleep when the baby sleeps
This is a doozie - and most people's favorite. Let me tell you that it is impossible to sleep when your baby sleeps. When are you supposed to eat or heaven forbid shower if you spend the 2 glorious hours you have to yourself sleeping? Who are they kidding?
Crying = hungry
Let me tell you that my newborn cried a lot! Granted yes, some of those times he was hungry and other times I think he was just annoyed that I kept trying to feed him to get him to stop crying. Crying does not equal hungry and every baby is different.
If you just let them cry they will learn to sleep through the night...
or other types of useless sleep advice. Don't let them sleep in your room, let them sleep in your room, feed them formula at night etc. etc. The list of sleep advice could go on for hours. Just because something worked for one baby/mother doesn't mean it will work for another. And while we are at it, if you see me completely sleep deprived - please don't tell that your kid was sleeping through the night since he was 2 days old. All that is going to make me do is want to smack you - HARD.
While I could go on and on, I will tell new mothers that the time goes by too fast. Even though you feel like you will never sleep again and you cry each and every time your baby cries out of sheer exhaustion - it will get better. Eventually.
What was the most useless piece of parenting advice you received either while pregnant or not?
Submitted as part of Mama Kat's writing workshop.